Tuesday, June 20, 2017
Go Ahead, Judge Me - But Then Give Me A Chance
People judge others. We all do it. It is wired into our DNA. Four thousand years ago if someone walked into your village you needed to be able to quickly decide if they were friend or foe, as a foe could kill you in your sleep. Thus, we size people up within moments of meeting them, and it is hard to shift that opinion.
Yet we live in a complex world and it is a good idea to realize that when we make snap decisions they are not always right, and when we label and people too fast (in a negative way) we can limit the results that come from knowing another person. When we dismiss the value of another, we might sell short our own opportunities.
All opportunities come from people, and thus we need each other. I try hard to let people show me more about who they are and what they do before I let a first impression become my permanent opinion. By giving people a chance there is some risk that they can disappoint, and many decide it is not worth taking a chance. I disagree, as there is also a chance they can become an amazing friend and supporter. I want and need more friends and supporters, so I will always let someone prove they have value before determining they are not worthy.
Have A Great Day